and that’s perfectly okay!
It’s easy to want everyone to like you, to be seen as the “good one” in every relationship, but the truth is — we’re all bad in someone’s story. And that’s perfectly okay!
There will be times when you wish you could reconnect with someone you were once close to. Maybe it’s a friend, a partner, or even a family member. You shared so much together — deep conversations, laughter, memories that felt like they’d last forever. But sometimes, things fall apart. Maybe there was a disagreement, or maybe you simply drifted away. Either way, you wake up one day and realize you’re no longer in each other’s lives. You might feel guilty or wonder if you could fix it.
People leave your story because their role in it is over.
It’s painful to accept, especially when you think you’ve done something wrong. You might replay the past, wishing you could change things or show them you’ve grown. But no matter how much you’ve changed, the fact remains that, in their eyes, you might still be the person who hurt them, disappointed them, or simply didn’t show up the way they needed.
And again that’s okay. We’re all bad in someone’s story.
Not every relationship is meant to last forever.
People come into your life for a reason, and when that reason is fulfilled, they leave to make space for new experiences. Sometimes, you won’t even know why someone left, and you’ll feel like the villain for not doing more to hold onto them. But life has a way of moving people in and out of your path for reasons you may not always understand.
You don’t need to prove to everyone that you’ve changed.
It’s hard to accept that you may have hurt someone in the past or that you weren’t the best version of yourself. But what’s important is that you grow from it. No matter how much better you’ve become, their perception of you won’t shift. And that’s alright, because their story is not yours to control. What matters is how you choose to move forward.
We all make mistakes.
At some point, we’ve all been the one who let someone down, whether we meant to or not. But that doesn’t define who you are today. The people in your past may hold onto that version of you, but the ones in your present see who you’ve become.
You don’t need to be the hero in every story — just be the best version of yourself in the one you’re living now.
You don’t need to be everyone’s “favorite” or most important person
I used to feel like I wasn’t anyone’s best friend, like no one saw me as their closest person. That thought weighed on me for a long time. But now I think about it differently. People have their own reasons for how they feel, and sometimes it has nothing to do with me.
Just like I’ve had moments where I couldn’t connect with someone, others might feel the same about me. I’ve done my part by being kind and open, and whether they feel the same is out of my hands. It’s not always about what I did or didn’t do — sometimes, we just don’t click, and that’s okay.
You don’t have to force people to like you, and you don’t have to rewrite the stories of the past to redeem yourself.
The relationships that are meant to grow will happen naturally, like flowers in the wild. And sometimes, people will only remember the moments you didn’t show up for them. That’s okay too.
When you feel alone or when the weight of past relationships gets heavy, remember that you always have yourself.
You are your own best friend. You don’t need to overthink every relationship or hold onto the need to be seen as good in everyone’s eyes. Criticism will come, and it’s important to acknowledge it, but don’t be too harsh on yourself. Think of the child version of you — how sad she would be if everyone around her was harsh, and no one was there to comfort her. You owe it to that younger version of yourself to be kind.
Life is long, and you’ll meet many more people who will see you differently, people who will get to experience the better version of you.
Appreciate the past for what it was, but don’t let your mistakes define who you will be. Good friendships and love will come to you in time. Trust that the best is yet to come, even if some people from your past still see you as the “bad one” in their story.
At the end of the day, being the “bad guy” in someone’s story doesn’t mean you’re a bad person. It just means you’re human.
